Things To Know Before Getting Married


Written by Jane van Zundert

Hi, I am Jane, I am married and a mother of four. My mission in life is to inspire and motivate you, on how you can break free from fear, shame, and resentment and start creating a balanced life, so that you can begin to enjoy your total freedom and never get stuck again in life.

March 24, 2020

When the sun starts to set is when most people plan to get married. Marriage is a holy institution between two persons. The Bible made us understand in the book of Genesis 2:24 ”Therefore shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be one flesh KJV. Marriage is to be celebrated and well managed.

1. Your spouse is not going to complete you

Going into a marriage for a selfish reason will break the marriage before it even gets started. Have in mind that you are going into a marriage not because you think or expect your spouse to satisfy or complete you. Yes, when you get married you are now one flesh but there will always be different in character. Both of you are brought up in different environments with different beliefs. Before you ever say yes to that man or woman have it in mind that you both are going to give your all and learn how to be compactable with one other.

2. Dont bring too many expectation in the marriage

Putting your hopes and expectation too high will give you anxiety. Know that when you are getting married that things will change from time to time. Do give yourself high hope by saying that you want the best man, it can either be in the aspect of raising the children or being love. At some points in life it will be shaken, go into marriage and be prepared for the unknown. Get through it together when any issue arises. In that way, you will be able to survive when any shaken occur.

3. You won’t always feel in love

There are times you will ask yourself if you have made the right choice in getting married to that man or woman. That is because sometime in your marriage when you feel your spouse is not doing all that he was doing from the beginning you might feel that he or she is no longer in love with you. That might not be the case is just sometimes things fade away. If you buy a new shoe it will be the best to every other one you will like to put it on often, but at a time you will get tired of that shoe, not that you don’t like it anymore is just that you have gotten familiar with it that you give it some rest. Dont be angry when such occour in your marriage instead look for a new way and manner to boost your marriage.

4. Never call it quit when the going gets tough

Never you call it quit when things are not the same way it used to be when you first get married. Learn to go through all obstacles together with your spouse. Unless otherwise where there is physical and mental abuse you should not call it quit always give yourselves time to work issues out.

5. Express love always

Always show your love, show how much you care for your spouse. Let it not only be when you receive a gift before showing appreciation. Be in love, stay in love and let communication flow always between you and your spouse.

Never forget that the family that prays together stays together. Get involved in prayers, study the Bible together, go to church together and let love be the foundation of your marriage, not greed.

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