If your man does these, don’t just stand by and get treated like dirt. Take action!

Whether you turn to the right or the left, your ears will hear a voice behind you, saying, “This is the way; walk in it.” (Isaiah 30:21)

Some women find it difficult to tell whether a man is genuinely interested in them or not. I know sometimes it gets a little trickish when it comes to finding out the true color of your man or genuinely feeling if your man is really interested in you or just pretending he does. How will you know if he is the man you want to spend the rest of your life with or a man who is out to waste your time?

I got some serious tips for you, things you want to deeply think about, and begin to put into consideration.

1. He takes a long time to return your calls or reply to your text messages

He reads your messages and never replies or returns your calls sometimes till the next day. Here is the truth. Your spouse can genuinely be busy during the day, and if you understand his schedule no need to be suspicious of anything. He might read your messages and blue mark them but don’t reply. But once he gets less busy, he will surely return your call or reply to your message. 

But listen before you draw your conclusion, that your man is not interested in you. A good man will return your call or reply to your message after 24 hours, but a man who refuses to return your call after 24 hours or reply to your messages is not interested in you. he got something more important than you going on in his mind, and that is what he is deviating his attention to.

Believe me, when I say this, a man that is fully interested in you will find a way to quickly reply to your messages when he is less busy and let you know that he genuinely missed your call.

2. If he always cancels the plan you both made.

This is one big red flag. When you tell him, to take you out for dinner on a certain day, he agrees but messages you that it won’t be possible because of an urgent business or meeting. He never bothers to call because he is good at hiding his deception. Then you ask for lunch or to go to the movie together on Friday. He waits a few hours before the time and calls with a shaking voice that he will not be able to go. These are all red flags, and please don’t ignore them

He is not in love with you and chances are, he is wasting your time. If you are so observant, you will notice that anytime you want to spend time with him, he is always unavailable. It has become a normal routine for him. On this ground, you need to start deciding whether you want to stay or leave him. I say this because when a man is genuinely interested in you, he is always eager to see you. He wants to spend every little free time he has with you. He can never be all that busy not to be with you, trust me. My advice is, to take your time to find someone who will cherish and have more time with you.

3. He refers to you as a friend.

You have been dating this man for a while, but he never sees you as a future wife. So when it comes to introducing you, he always refers to you as a friend. You think you are both in serious relationships, but to him, you are just a friend and nothing more. 

4. When he tells you he is not ready for a serious relationship

When a man continually tells you he is not ready for a serious relationship. It’s time to leave and look for the ready one who is ready. When you meet a man, there must be a strong cemetery between the both of you. You both feel it and want to spend the rest of your life together. But anything that takes ever to manifest should be ignored.

5. They no longer can stand your uniqueness.

It suddenly becomes a big deal to follow your passion. They freak out when you are doing things that please you. They are constantly finding fault in everything you do. When every unique aspect of your personality annoys them, it’s a red flag that they want nothing more to do with you and you need to make your choice. Are ready to be bullied by the one who supposes to be your number one fan or leave?

In conclusion, it can become boring and frustrating when you discover that the one you think shares the same love and value with you began to treat you like dirt. My thought on this is, that no woman deserves to be treated like dirt. Know your worth, and your value, and be bold and confident to walk away from anyone or thing that threatens your peace and stability.

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Remember I’m your sister in Christ. 

Love you. 

Remain blessed.