Not everyone is meant to be in your life, the earlier you know this, the better and more productive you will become. Know that cutting people out of your life doesn’t mean you hate them, it means you are setting boundaries and respecting yourself.
What is a negative circle? A negative circle is any circle that has nothing to contribute to your life and success but drains you of your energy.
Friends are good, but as you grow old in life, and become more knowledgeable, it is wise to choose your company. You might begin to discover that you don’t need all those friends but only a few that you can rely on. Lots of marriages, businesses, and homes have broken because of negative influences.
– Here are some negative circles you will want to avoid.
1. Circle of jealousy Friends
In every circle, there is a jealous person that is secretly jealous of all your accomplishments. They are jealous of what you do and the people you know. They are never in support of you or whatever you do, rather they monitor you and secretly gossip behind you.
Anyone that appreciates and respects your friendship will do everything to support you especially when they are your close friends. They can tell everyone how close they are to you, but when you watch their actions closely, they will speak other than words.
2. Users – These are a set of people who will never do anything for you but always wanting you to help them out. Their logo is to collect but never give. When you are in need, they are nowhere to be found.
An honest relationship should be based on giving and take and supporting each other in times of good and bad.
“So beware of friends or people who never allow you to ride with them in their car but want to take over the driver seat of your life” – Jane van Zundert
3. Pretenders – Any circle that exhibit pretends should not only be trashed but avoided. Never be too comfortable among fake friends or negative circles because they are very contagious. All pretenders do is destroy you behind your back, but they will pretend to be of help.
I used to be in a ministry where all the preacher and his wife did was destroy people. They do it so tickly that everyone began to suspect each other. Until an incident occurred and I spoke out, it was then l realized that I was in the midst of pretenders. But thank God because when you work in honesty God will fight all your battles.
Whatever you do, learn to keep the door of your heart secure. Don’t be scared to say NO and stand by it. Walking out of that negative circle is not you trying to be selfish rather you are setting your boundaries and respecting yourself. Anyone that is not effective in your life will become a pain in your neck. Do away with them without an apology.
Don’t be fooled by those who say such things, for “bad company corrupts good character.” 1 Corinthians 15:33
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