How To Become You!

Written by Jane van Zundert

Hi, I am Jane, I am married and a mother of four. My mission in life is to inspire and motivate you, on how you can break free from fear, shame, and resentment and start creating a balanced life, so that you can begin to enjoy your total freedom and never get stuck again in life.

June 05, 2020

Have you ever imagined yourself to be in a place, where people never dreamt of seeing you? Have you stood up for yourself, that people that thought they know you were taken unaware? Are you even surprised at yourself, on how you overcame your fears?

Now, try to imagine yourself, where people have written you off. People are surprised, about how you escaped from their bondage. Sometimes, we hold ourselves bound by what society and families have told us to believe. The real truth is, we’re not supposed to be bothered about that, ”shoulds”.

You are supposed to live life, not based on what people say, a place where your feelings are allowed to come out without judging them. You should be able to relate to others based on your vision, and not trying to make others like you, by pretending to be what you are not.

When you don’t live your vision or purpose, you will remain in perpetual darkness. You will keep on living a fake life and unproductive life. You will never get satisfaction and fulfillment from not been you.

I’m here to share with you, how l got out of that place of unfulfillment and trying to please everyone except me. And give you some tips on how to help you, make use of your talent, and enjoy your vision. The only way to be fulfilled is to be…

Be Yourself!

Most times, we live our lives based on people’s opinions. We hid our true self from others on the ground of being judged or mocked, so we tend to create this thick wall of defense, that does not allow us to function in our real calling. Most at times because of how long we have lived this fake life, we’re not able to assess our true self and calling. To be able to be yourself, you need to, open up to your experiences.

Sometimes we project ourselves with things we are not comfortable with. We see it, feel it, and know it. I was a victim of this self-projection. There was a gathering l found myself. l was introduced by a friend to a place. It was the gathering of God.

Although l notice that something was not right about the gathering, I kept going. My friend was humiliated by the so-called head of the group, for what she was not guilty of. My friend and her family left.

When they try to share with me, the whole truth. I was far gone with the whole practice. I chose to follow the group and ignore my friend’s warning. Being that she has been with the group and know more about it than l.

At the end of it all, it all started manifesting, the true colors of the head and the wife came out. I was being forced to do what l don’t like and do what they feel was good for me. I was devastated and frustrated, I have come to believe everything they were saying. I involved my children and the husband in it. It was a rough and depressing time for l and my family.

Each time, l try to move out, the head and his wife will come out with a fake prophesy to hold me more in bondage. Things, like if you leave, you will never succeed in life, If you leave our coverage you will lose your marriage. If you leave our gathering your children will never become successful. Hummmmmm.

I love singing and writing, but l was not promoted, they hated my passion, instead, they saw every reason why my singing and my writing career will not work. I got a job they also told me to quit because they believe that was not my calling. What am I trying to say here? All this while, I knew something was not right, but because I lack that self-belief I was been manipulated.

This lockdown brought me back to my senses, I finally got time to think about myself and my passion, for almost three months, l began to do the things, l love, l was no longer in their gathering to hear all the manipulating messages. So l kick off with my project and since then lots of my potentials have been revealed.

If you are in a gathering or an organization even in a church, are we not supposed to celebrate each other’s success? In my case it was different. I wrote my second book, I was able to publish it. Before the publication, l sent it to this so-called leader for a word of prayer. He saw it and did not reply till this very moment I’m writing this blog. That was like a turning point for me. Until you celebrate yourself no one will. Learn to love you. Be yourself self. Stop trying to please everyone because not everyone will be happy with your progress.

Today, since l left that group, lots of doors have been opened, l can now, relate with people who believe in my vision and dream. I found my voice. To cut it short, I’m the driver of my vehicle. I am leaving my dream today because I decided to love me and do that which I’m passionate about.

Have you been leaving your life based on people’s opinions? Please leave your comment below. Feel free to share this post with your friends and loved ones.

Remember l am your sister in Christ.

love you all.

Remain blessed.

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