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Self Development

Written by Jane van Zundert

Hi, I am Jane, I am married and a mother of four. My mission in life is to inspire and motivate you, on how you can break free from fear, shame, and resentment and start creating a balanced life, so that you can begin to enjoy your total freedom and never get stuck again in life.

November 04, 2019

Personal development is like climbing the stairs, it is a gradual process when you have the right mindset you will definitely get to the top.- Jane Liberated

‘’Personal development, is the belief that is worth the effort, time and energy needed to develop yourself.’’ Denis Waitley.

‘’Change equals self-improvement. Push yourself to place you haven’t been before’’  Pat Summitt.

‘’Personal development is a major time saver the better you believe the less time it takes you to achieve your goals’’  Brain Tracy.

Personal development is the process by which a person’s character or abilities are gradually developed. Everyone has a character in them, that maybe affects the way they relate with people or opportunities set before them.

Self-esteem is a difficult virtue to cultivate and practice. So many of us try so hard to live up to the expectations of others—spouses, relatives, friends, and workmates among them. We choose to live by the standards they set for us.

 The sad reality is that when we do this, we forget our own origin as well as our destination. We forget that we were each created unique, special, and in the image of God. We forget our self-esteem. We can begin to reclaim our self-worth by refusing to compare ourselves with others no matter how successful they may be.

We should be ourselves, the way God created us. All we need to do is to develop our personality by working on our mindset. God will lift us up above all obstacles and limitations we face. There is a reason why we are the way we are. Remind yourself daily of the things you will like to become, dream and conceive it and finally one day it will be delivered.

When you continue to invest in yourself by the things you read and the listen to and being around positive-minded people, people that can add value to your life, you will finally begin to see the result of your personal development.

This will allow you to continue to shape you into that beautiful and joyful person you desire to be. It’s not going to happen just because you have a particular person in your life, Invest your energy in building your self-worth, and your light will shine for others to see. Your light will draw people closer to you. once you discover your self-worth, love the best of who you are, and appreciate God’s goodness in your life. We can’t expect others to do that for us.

Are You In an Abusive Relationship?

Never allow anyone to take away your self-esteem

I was in a relationship that almost cost me my life., I was so much in love with him. All I ever wanted was a happy family who shared, love eating, playing, shopping and going places together. Above all, raising our kids together. Just an average family. But to my greatest surprise, that was the opposite of his intentions.

He was cheating on me, and worse, he kicked me out of the house while I was pregnant. He was leaving in a small, rented servants’ quarter. When I first met him, he had nothing in his room. I bought everything for him—a television, cooking stove, pots, plates, a refrigerator, and so on. I would buy food and hire a taxi to bring the items to his doorstep.

 I was in love. I thought by doing all this, the man I had fallen in love with would be satisfied. I was wrong. He had another life and was busy cheating on me. I fainted so many times because I had one mindset and that is loving him and believing I can change him. No one can really change an adult.

That is the mistake most of us make today, we stay in an abusive relationship because we fail to grow or develop ourselves. I was stressed out, confused and down with depression, all I could think about was, it was over, I am not good enough and I can never be loved by anyone. I stopped living and l lost my self-esteem.

Tips on Self Development

Eliminate stress from your life- Stress can impede your ability to be happy. Being subjected to sustained and extreme stress can have negative mental and physical repercussions. To be able to think clearly, it is important to eliminate stress. Allow yourself a set time during each day that you can relax and empty your mind. This time to yourself can make you feel more peaceful.

 Don’t avoid making a decision– In personal development, when you avoid making a decision, you also avoid seizing an opportunity. Do not fear the decision making task. Educate yourself, if necessary, to make the best decisions possible. Making decisions helps build your instincts of right and wrong. Even bad decisions serve a purpose, as they teach valuable lessons. If you make a wrong move, you will know next time to do something different.

Identify the biggest obstacle– identifying that obstacle, that is preventing you from succeeding. This can prove problematic for most folks. You might not be able to find your weakness, but you can find a way to change them. Removing obstacles in your life can help you get a clearer picture of what’s to come.

Never give up on yourself, I was able to change my mindset and set my self up, by doing that which I love doing today, l am happy I did. If you want to know what I did check out the link below.


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