Narcissists have a subtle way of manipulating, controlling, and gaslighting their victims, often without even realizing it. They employ cunning tactics that make it difficult for others to believe your perspective when you share your experiences.

While narcissists appear loud and generous to the outside world, often boasting about their giving nature, they tend to complain at home about their struggles at work.

A narcissistic person will typically avoid sharing a joint bank account with you. They may present themselves as the primary breadwinner in the household, but quietly deplete your finances. To maintain their facade, they often lavish money on people they know, further masking their true character.

1. They work and earn well, but never disclose their earnings, subtly taking advantage of your hard work.
2. They are very generous to the outside world. They manipulatively tell people how good they are and how well they take care of you and the family.
3. They boast about everything and never take responsibility for their mistakes. They lie to others about you and create a negative image, making it seem like you are a gold digger.
4. They feel so entitled to your life that they gradually take your peace and joy away. They make numerous promises but never follow through.
5. They cheat, betray, and lie about their affairs. They twist the situation to make it seem like you are the one at fault. They even deceive the person they are cheating with, claiming that you are the one who begged for their attention to be with you.

When you finally reach your limit with their lies, betrayal, gaslighting, and manipulation, and you inform them that you want to leave, their initial reaction is to beg and express sorrow. This is one of their most common tactics because they know you tend to take them back.

But this time, you’ve had enough of their lies. They become very angry and start telling others how you’ve been using them. They turn the tables and claim to be the true victims. However, when they realize there is no chance left for them, they subtly move on to their next target. Their new victim, who has been secretly enjoying a lot of attention from them, falls into the narcissist’s trap.

Here we go: the new supply has completely captured their attention, and the narcissist believes you will be miserable because of it. The reality is that a narcissistic person will never change; they struggle with mental health issues. Since they rely on others to boost their ego, they are incapable of genuinely loving anyone. They are the masters of manipulation.

As I explained above, they pretend to be the breadwinner, but deep down, you have always been the one supporting them. When you finally decide to leave, they may even brag about how they left you, when in reality, you were the one who chose to walk away. Now that you have set healthy boundaries, they can no longer access you, and they resent you for having the audacity to progress without them.

If you have been in a relationship with a narcissist, you are not alone. Many people have experienced this. You are not sick or crazy; you simply fell in love with someone who is mentally unhealthy and never truly loved you. Instead, they view you as another victim to exploit for their selfishness.

You have lived in a lie and have been mistreated. But now, you have regained your peace and power. Do not allow yourself to be burdened by the darkness of the past. You are a survivor and an overcomer.

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