You and your spouse are no longer happy in your marriage as it used to be when you were newly wedded. There are void and no more communication. How did it get so worse after the love vows, the promises that you will be forever happy together?
You now question yourself, l thought this was supposed to be the love of my life, my prince or queen, why is it different now? The answer is this when we fall in love, we imagined that everything is going to be well and perfect, but what we forget is, we are born into a different family and sometimes different cultures.
Before you got married, you imagined that there is going to be peace and harmony, but what we forget most times is that our emotional feelings are taken with us, so until we learn how to handle some issues, it might stand as a threat to your marriage.
When situations threaten your marriage don’t be scared, you can still make it if you keep a positive mindset, even when there is an outside invention your marriage will succeed, and you and your spouse will have that happiness again. But you need to have perseverance. Here are some tips to help you.
1. Take Time To Know Each other Again
When you were dating, you must have spent more time getting to know each other, either through going out on a date or chatting on the phone, after you got married your taste changed, why? Because marriage is a continual learning process that requires everyday learning. Intentionally getting to know your spouse and know what they want and like will save you a lot of boredom. When you invest more time in your marriage, you will see how fulfilled you will begin to feel.
2. Be Kind To One Another
Be kind to one another, generosity helps in saving lots of trouble in marriages. Money can never make you happy in your marriage, but investing in the time and kindness, will help your marriage. Give your spouse a little treat from time to time. If your spouse likes to have fresh juice in the morning, before going to work, take time to do it, and likewise, if your wife loves to be massaged once a while, take to show that kindness, don’t wait for her to ask, just surprise your spouse with kindness.
3. Have More Time For Each Other
Never make the mistake of giving your spouse the leftover time rather make it a point of duty to make your marriage a priority both of you must create time to hang out, you can never do that when all your attention is focused on your kids and daily duties. learn to share your dreams and inspire each other. Have a time planned for a vacation together.
Never Take The Blame
When there is no more harmony in your marriage, don’t take the blame, never you re-visit all the mistakes about your spouse. Instead, take the time to focus on your health and how to become a happier person. Work hard on yourself to become a better person, take time, analyze the change you want, and how to lift some burden from your marriage. If you have been misused, then seek professional help.
5. Learn To Forgive one Another
Forgiving each other will help restore peace in your marriage, don’t develop the habit of nagging, rather learn to communicate. Holding on to bitterness, will not only keep you far from each other, but it will also escalate to hatred and anger.
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